How joining a challenge group challenged my mind more than it changed my body.

This is real talk peeps, and super personal! I joined a challenge group in January, through my amazing co-worker, Heather, who is also an awesome Beach Body coach! I joined with the hopes of fulfilling my New Year’s Resolution (always- get more fit/healthy). There has been more of me to love ever since my parent’s got my tonsils out when I was 4 (that’s when I discovered the healing powers of ice cream and my world changed forever). Now, with this being said, I am not crazy unhealthy, I know what is healthy and what isn’t. My problem is moderation and self control. Still mastering that 80/20 lifestyle.

So about this Challenge group: Now this challenge group has been absolutely wonderful! Heather does an awesome job of holding me accountable and there has been some SLOOOOOW body changes.  The other members are crazy encouraging and some of the sweetest women I have NEVER actually met! I have been slacking lately (spring break struggles) and I was honest with my coach and told her the only thing keeping me on the “health wagon” is that I started eating the wagon for more fiber. I know I can get back on the “health wagon” (that part is actually not as hard), but I want to focus on the mental change that has happened since I began my challenge group because I honestly think this is more important than any other change and I feel like sharing is caring.

Our February challenge group was focused on loving yourself and our Coach (Heather), challenged us by making each group member say something they loved about their bodies, almost daily. THIS. WAS. A. MAJOR. STRUGGLE.

But why?

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To answer honestly, I have no idea but it was literally like hitting a brick wall when she asked me to do it (what’s something I love about myself? oh snap, how do I answer this?!?) I think I immediately started thinking “I am gonna sound so vain if I answer this!” Truth: NO YOU ARE NOT!!!  And then I realized “Do I love myself like I should?” This was hard, and a little emotional and dare I say uncomfortable and awkward AF? I can name qualities in other people that I absolutely adore. I can help others answer this question without hesitation, but when it comes to myself I honestly struggle. I wouldn’t consider myself to have low self esteem at all by the way…. I just have a difficult time identifying the parts of myself that I love the most. Does anybody else struggle with this?

Is the negative self talk impeding my progress with my goals?

Answer: Absofreakinglutely. We forget the mental side to getting fit/ in shape/ being healthier (whatever the heck you want to do for yourself). It is the MENTAL game that will impede your progress more than the physical. Instead of looking in the mirror and criticizing what needs to change, be thankful for the things you have going for you (this is much easier said than done). Most of all, STOP comparing yourself to others. This is something I continue to struggle with but I am working on. It is really hard not to compare yourself to others when we live in a world where social media is running so rampant.

Now, I don’t want to say I have completely changed the way I view myself (in fact it’s still a work in progress), but it has changed and here is how I can tell. First of all, I launched this blog  (well my mother really did by sharing to Facebook) but I have a noticed that I don’t really give a hoot about what other people think of it or disapprove of, etc. That in itself is really gratifying and freeing. Second, I have noticed that by loving myself, I have made better choices in what I eat (this engine deserves premium gas!). Lastly, I have noticed the way I look at others is different. Instead of that ping of jealously hitting every time I see someone lookin fly, I think “You freaking go you sexy beast!” That shows you where your mind is at.

Here is a couple of girls lookin fly Challenge group pic.jpg

Lastly, my coach has taught me to give myself grace. 

So what that you had a glass of wine? So what that you treated yourself to some candy? Who the flip cares that you had pizza night with your girls? Stop with the image crap and live your life peeps! We all all have the same ending (don’t waste your time stressin). The more you love yourself the more likely you are to take care of yourself.

My challenge to you: make a list of all the things you love about yourself (both physical and otherwise) and if you can’t make that list you need to try every day to find something you love about yourself! If you are interested in joining a challenge group, I got connections btw.

Comment below with something you love about yourself!



  • Miss Mental March 18, 2018 at 11:04 am Reply

    This is so relatable! what i love about myself? well first there is a whole list of bad things coming to mind but after thinking about it for a while. I probably love that i’m always trying my best to be a good person, make others feel comfortable. although it also feels like i never do enough.

    Im glad you found so much in that group! keep rocking!

    • Hillary March 18, 2018 at 11:10 am Reply

      I hate how awkward it feels when thinking of things to love about yourself! I am so glad you could relate to my post, thanks for reading and thanks for always trying to be a good person! We need more of those!!! Keep lovin yourself!!

  • mommabarnes17 March 18, 2018 at 9:06 pm Reply

    Thank you for this Hillary!! I often find myself picking out the things I am unhappy with and then think why do I feel so crappy. When I think about it (it’s going to sound weird) I love my toes (LOL) and my nose. Weird I know but there you have it.

    • Hillary March 18, 2018 at 9:18 pm Reply

      No problem! We have to stand together as women to encourage each other because it is really easy to compare and criticize ourselves and much harder to build ourselves up! Lol I absolutely love what you love about yourself! Haha I never really thought to think of my toes! That made me laugh

  • harlistefek March 18, 2018 at 9:45 pm Reply

    Hillary, I absolutely love this one! We all feel that way about ourselves from time to time! It definitely helps to have such great friends to remind us to find the good about ourselves! Attitude is everything when trying to meet a goal! It is very difficult to find and state something I love about myself but after some long thought (and trying to not have negative ones) I will say I love my eyes (color). I definitely love them more after not being able to open them for a few days! 😂😂

    • Hillary March 18, 2018 at 9:51 pm Reply

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the read Harli! And you do have gorgeous eyes! I’m glad you can still see out of them haha! Too soon still? It shouldn’t be so hard for us to find something we love about ourselves! We need to work on our self love!!

  • Dixey March 19, 2018 at 2:22 pm Reply

    I love that I can find good in most everyone! Keep the positive post Hillary. I love reading them and they always make me laugh 😂

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