4 ways to know you are being obnoxiously loud and how to handle it before feeling like an idiot.

Yes, I am speaking to all you fellow extroverts out there.

You know you have felt it….. that horrible embarrassing feeling once you have left a group of co-workers, good friends, or even just acquaintances. The aftermath of having  a good time where you ask yourself, “Oh my heavens was I really that loud?” or “Omg I seriously interrupted probably like 30 times, they probably hate me!”. You basically have FELT like you seriously overused your voice box. Its like pulsing because it’s getting to rest finally. Well my good friends, you are NOT alone, and let me just tell you, its worse when you know you have a loud voice to begin with.


A little background: My family is loud…..like super loud….and BIG. I can remember being little and you feel kind of like you have to shout to be heard. Unfortunately, I didn’t grow out of that and my voice box literally sounds like it has a megaphone in it. It can be embarrassing when I get so excited around friends and I often leave feeling like how I described above so needless to say I should take my own advice.

Be able to recognize and act on the following hints that you are probably being obnoxious:

  1. The people you are talking to have bulging eyes: Yes they are genuinely scared about how overwhelmingly loud you are being. Especially the introverts, they are being drained just by watching you.  If you see the bulging eyes, shut up immediately. (Examples of bulging eyes for reference)
  2. People are visibly backing away from you or leaning backwards: They are doing this because your energy is so high its physically pushing them away from you, they are in the splash zone (aka your spitting on them when you talk), not to mention they can still hear you perfectly from 20 feet away because you sound like a boombox, or because you have stinky breath (it happens to everyone). If you see people leaning backwards or backing away from you, this is a tell-tale sign that you need to reel it in energy wise, and listen to others speak for like 30 minutes to give everyone a break. Easy ways to do this are to remove yourself from the situation, go outside and take a breather and tell yourself to “zip it”, then calmly walk back in a more quieter manner.
  3. If (at a party type event) the host pulls you aside and asks you to help her/him get more chips and dip for everyone: This is not because the host thinks you are extremely helpful or actually wants you around them, they are trying to save their guests eardrums and hoping you’ll calm down or take the hint. This also happens when you are drinking too much- never do that and be the loudest one at the party- because there is no saving face there. If the host pulls you aside, don’t be offended, just take the hint to shut your face and resume as a quieter version of yourself.
  4. When you’re a super loud or obnoxious laugher: I know this one too well. My laugh rings in the ears of everyone I think I meet. If you have an extremely ear piercing laugh or you have an obnoxious laugh- try the “muffle your laugh” technique. Simply, cover your mouth when laughing. Caution: Do NOT cup your mouth, this actually has the opposite effect of muffling and will amplify your laugh. You can also hold your nose if you snort (although you risk looking goofy). This technique can be used when meeting people for the first time.

At the end of the day, people still love you even though you are loud, and the ones that don’t love your loudness are probably not your friends so who cares? You would much rather be the one entertaining others at a party/ get together then having a party full of wallflowers and nobody is talking or laughing. You don’t have to apologize for who you are, you just need to take these helpful hints and apply them to your life. People like to laugh because most people enjoy happiness. Don’t be too hard on yourself. And if you didn’t notice any of the above signs then you are probably being too hard on yourself.

Half the time nobody notices anyway.

Note: I do not claim to own any of these images. I just googled them.

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  • Grimes March 11, 2018 at 3:44 am Reply

    Your wonderfully, beautiful, loud voice makes my heart sing and makes me laugh when I need it the most !

    • hillaryhood08 March 11, 2018 at 3:51 am Reply

      I love laughing with you! You are too Sweet Grimes!

  • Jenna. M March 10, 2018 at 9:42 pm Reply

    Great post! You had me laughing. I have to agree with the previous comment though, I always love laughing with you and your personality makes everyone else around you feel joy!

    • hillaryhood08 March 10, 2018 at 9:47 pm Reply

      Thank you girl!!! I am so glad it made you laugh! That means I did my job! 🙂

  • Harli March 11, 2018 at 8:19 pm Reply

    This was absolutely hilarious! All I could think about was George before he got the hearing aid! 😂😂😂 Also, now I know NOT to ask you to help get something at a party/ social event! 🤣

    • Hillary March 11, 2018 at 8:54 pm Reply

      Haha, I would probably offer to help at a party anyway. I feel awkward standing idly while other people are busy doing something! Glad you enjoyed.

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